Betrayal recovery begins by addressing the immediate pain and disruption of discovery, while helping couples determine the healthiest way to move forward.

1. Address the Pain

Slow things down, reduce further injury, and create enough stability to begin the work.

2. Rebuild honesty and safety

Establish safety through honest conversations, boundaries and transparency. Work to begin restoring reliability and accountability.

3. Understand what happened

Explore the betrayal, the choices and patterns surrounding it, and the impact it has had on both partners and the relationship.

4. Work through the hurt and rebuild trust

Make space for grief, anger, questions, accountability, repair, and the gradual rebuilding of trust.

5. Build the relationship you want going forward

Determine what genuine repair requires and build healthier patterns and stronger communication. Elements of discernment counseling are used to increase clarity and confidence in the healthiest path forward for each partner.